"I am an adopted child and the birth mother of an adopted child. 2 years ago, I found myself in a situation where I had 3 children at home and 1 in college. My youngest was 8 yrs old and I had just separated from my boyfriend. I was 38 and pregnant. I did a lot of thinking and soul searching.I talked to my children, explained the situation and what I was considering.I wanted to do the right thing for me, my children and this baby. So, I decided on adoption. It was the biggest and most unselfish decision I had ever made.
Then, I found Aabagails Silver Spoon Adoptions. These are the kindest, most compassionate and caring people. One day, when I was feeling overwhelmed. Lisa told me,"take your time and you will know if it is right." She was right. I knew as soon as I spoke to them that I had found the perfect family for me and my son.
It was the best feeling in the world, to place my son in his mother’s arms for the first time. Now, I have a wonderful extended family, that is so dear to my heart. It is an amazing feeling to make someone's hopes and dreams come true. Blessing them with a child and completing their family. I have always wanted to do something wonderful and meaningful with my life.I have come full circle now and feel complete. I am proud of who I am and the decision I made."
Sincerely,
Meredith
"Placing my son for adoption was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I've never regretted it for a minute. I love my son's adoptive parents! They're the best, and I know he'll have a wonderful life with them. I feel blessed to have found them through you. Thank you for the late-night talks and the support you provided." - Janelle
" An unplanned pregnancy can be a blessing or a curse. It's up to you, the birth mother, to decide which it will be for you.
For me, abortion wasn't an option. I wasn't in a position to parent at that time. My father had died, and having lost my mother years earlier, I felt pretty much alone in the world. When I became pregnant, I didn't get any support from the birth father, either emotionally or financially. I felt that the only option that I could live with was adoption. I view my daughter as a blessing. She was a special gift to a family who otherwise would not have had the opportunity to be parents. She is their pride and joy. She will be given a good education and all the things a child should have. Aside from material things, she is given all the love she can handle. She will always know how much I love her.
Her birth was a blessing for me as well. I think of that time in my life as a stepping stone. I grew up a lot. I brought a life into this world -- a very special life (who knows what she will contribute to this world?). I met some people who changed my perspective on things. I have bonds from that time which will last a lifetime. And while I learned that not everyone has your best interest at heart, I also learned how to tell who does.
There are good reasons for placing a baby for adoption. The obvious ones for me were that...
1) I didn't believe in terminating an innocent baby's life...it wasn't right for the baby or for me,
2) I didn't have the financial means to provide for the baby and
3) I wasn't emotionally ready to be a parent.
It wouldn't have been fair to either of us. So, I chose to be the messenger of good news. I don't regret my decision for a moment, although I won't pretend it wasn't the hardest thing I've ever done. But nothing worthwhile comes easy. Yes, I've paid my dues. By doing so, I can say that this is my proudest accomplishment.
If you decide that adoption is right for you, then you're in the right place. I can tell you from experience that there are agencies and attorneys out there who won't put your best interest first.They treat birth mothers strictly as a business I was with one of those agencies before I contacted Aabagails Silver Spoon Adoptions. Here I feel like I was treated like I was a family member "
***Jessica***